Veteran Nigerian singer and songwriter, Charles Chukwuemeka Oputa, popularly known as Charly Boy, is currently grateful for finally coming to terms with his daughter’s sexuality.
According to the singer, her daughter is a lesbian and he struggled to accept her sexuality. He said that when his daughter opened up to him that she was a lesbian in 2016, he found it difficult to accept it even though he supports LGBT campaigns.
Charly Boy said he tried not to react excessively when his daughter spoke about her sexuality because he didn’t want to damage their relationship. A lot of questions came to his mind – self-blame, religious confusion, and stigma.
However, he forced himself to calm down because he didn’t want his daughter to shy away from him. Months later, he finally accepted that his daughter’s sexuality. Read the full story below;
“For Parents Only. About 4yrs ago, my last Princess of the house called me from America, from her tone I was bracing up for whatever she was about to tell me especially when she kept saying to me, “daddy promise me you won’t get mad at me, or give up on me”.
“I am close with my children and I love dem to bits. They are my friend. But I wasn’t really ready for the “breaking news” my Princess Dewy had for me.
“When my child told me she is gay, a lesbian, I experienced a range of emotions, during that phone conversation. So many things went through my mind, one of them included self-blame (“Did I do something wrong?”) (“The child I thought I knew and loved no longer exists.”), worry (“Will my child be discriminated against?) religious confusion (“Is my child damned to spend eternity in hell?”), and stigma (“What will people think of my child? Of me?”).
“However, I kept pinching myself to calm down because I didn’t want my baby to shy away from me or for us to have a strained relationship. I loved my baby far too much.
“I first took a deep breath. And all I could say was, “are you sure?” I was hoping it was a prank but it was happening in real-time. Even though I was unusually calm through that conversation, my mind was wandering in all directions.
“Months before this incident, I was lending my voice in support of LGTB rights in Nigeria. Is life playing tricks on me? Now my daughter is gay, why do I feel disappointed? Am I a hypocrite? How do I handle this bombshell?
“I have faced many challenges in my life and won, I was determined to win this too. All I want is my Princesses Love, happiness, and Success in her life anything else is secondary. I told myself that I will get through this, and many months later I did.
“As a matter of fact, I now look back and find that I am grateful for the experience of having a gay or lesbian child. Nothing can come between me and any of my beautiful children. It is stupid to even think that having a gay child means that parents have failed. That’s some pedestrian thinking. Me, I love my gay daughter oooo. I love you Dewy❤️❤️❤️😍❤️😍.”